Thanks to all for your kind advice and words of wisdom for our little eating conundrum. I thought it might be best to add a little more to the story.
For the remainder of the day, Charlotte continued to refuse all foods. This child has iron will! She only asked for juice and gummies. Sugar sugar sugar!!! So to the person who said - she will eat when she's hungry - not yet! She was hungry and didn't eat. Stubborn beyond all sense of reason.
A typical day is 8oz of milk in the morning, followed by light snacking of our breakfast - some days more than others. Pedisure around 1pm, light snacking throughout the day (meaning a few bites of cheese, crackers, and bread) and 8oz of milk before bed.
Oh and she does know how to eat with a spoon and demonstrates with great care and skill on occasion but today we continued to offer the spoon because we are just determined to get her to eat one way or another!
We honestly have no idea how she manages to continue growing but the doctor said she's healthy and has a little belly and is meeting all milestones. But honestly this situation is getting beyond exasperating.
So to further enhance her hunger we are planning to eliminate morning milk to squeeze a real breakfast in. This means we actually have to make an effort to wake up before 7am and prepare a full breakfast. So what am I doing on here??? I should be sleeping!